I’ll probably sound a bit like a Debbie Downer with this blog but hear me out. I’m one of those people who believe that Valentine’s Day is a marketing scheme for cards, flowers, overpriced restaurant menus and chocolates (ok, I do love chocolate). I don’t believe we need a day to say or prove our love with material things. I also don’t believe in shaming those who love love, or those who use social media to prove “my boyfriend is better than yours” or making those who haven’t found a significant other feels lower than low (and I actually don’t think anyone does any of those things knowingly in spite or to create harm). However, with that being said I won’t knock a day that brings people together with loving thoughts and actions, to feel appreciated, special or even sexy.
Yesterday’s Valentine’s Day consisted of 6am wake up and 1:40 commute to work which should be 45 minutes (traffic to Luxembourg is notoriously awful). I worked a half-day because I had testing to determine my level to start French classes on February 27th (I’m not a beginner but I’m not fluent 😉). I ran 5 miles and then had a dermatology appointment, nothing serious thankfully because I’ve been stupid with protection and now have age spots. People, protect your skin!! Then I had another 1:40 commute home getting us back at 8pm. Julien did cook dinner and dessert after a full day’s work, and at 9pm we ate and had some champagne before going to bed before 11pm. This is real life. It’s monotonous. It’s rather uneventful. It’s tiring. But that’s our relationship and we tell each other “I love you” every night and every morning. We don’t particularly need a special day to let us know how we feel about each other.
My point is we shouldn’t have to prove our love (to a partner, family member, friend or anyone for that matter) just because of heart-shaped chocolates and a naked Cupid baby on a card says we should. We should be telling the ones we love that we care on a routine basis. Just like brushing our teeth or going for a run and doing some core work is good for our health, so is the maintenance of our relationships.
So, if you’re in a fight, make peace by being the bigger person and saying “I’m sorry” first (even if you aren’t at fault). Buy a cup of coffee for the person in line behind you, open the door at the store and say thank you if someone did that for you. Volunteer at the local food pantry. Pick up litter on the metro or bus. Wave and nod to the jogger or walker passing by you on your run. I feel like we’ve lost a bit of humanity and it’s either go big or go home. Don’t get me wrong, I like material things but I don’t necessarily need them to feel validated as a loved individual. I know I’ve gotten into the hustle of life once or twice and think I’m under appreciated but it’s probably because I miss the small acts of kindness, texts, hugs or smiles. I believe these actions if done daily just like exercise, can bring a lot more happiness.
I do hope everyone had a lovely Valentine’s Day and going forward every day. I hope you get the chance to feel special and deserved and happy by either those around you or by committing to loving yourself. We’re all worth it!
Because love is love is love is love ❤️